Need Advice

[Sharpay]

I would like some advice if possible. My cousin just had her baby a few hours ago. She is in a city right now, while I live in a village, and she does not live here. This is my first cousin in my mom's side of the family who had a baby.

Well, I am the type of person who does not like babies or toddlers. I aquired that trait from my ex 2nd mother. She does not have any kids, but I was basically her only child she could have and she referred me as a "daughter of hers" when I was 9 years old. She has reasons why she does not want any children and I understood her reasons and I actually feel the same way she does. Her and I can't stand a baby crying or a baby in the same room, near us for such a certain amount of time.

I have tried to tell this to my family and they don't respect me in that aspect. They think I am unlady like, but my ex 2nd mom iis a real lady who lived in cities and wore dresses and high heels and is very well mannered. I don't think I could change my traits that I have aquired from her. What are your suggestions on what I should do when my cousin is here with her baby? Thanks.

[Angel]

Honestly, as much as it's bothersome to you.. my advice would be to be understanding and keep your personal feelings about the annoyance in check. Sure, it's annoying but it's not the end of the world or anything.

She had a baby and when she is with you, that baby is going to cry because well .. babies cry. It's the only way they can express when they need their mothers, and they need them alot. I'm sure the mother doesn't "like" it when the baby cries either but she loves that baby. It's her little bundle of joy and it would be rude to treat her as if she is doing something wrong or getting in "your way" or something.. if you could only express your feelings by crying.. you probably would understand. I would be extremely hurt if someone acting like my baby just being a baby was some how "hurtful" to them..

This doesn't make you a bad person or unladylike at all.. but if you expressed that to her, i would say that would be rude.

[|TheHappyFox|]

Well sharpay, If you ask me. I think you might of used to like babies. Because you DID point out that you got the trai from a former mom. Which means before that you must not have felt that way. So i would try going back to the old aspect of liking them, and if that is hard for you, you need to do what all women do. Cage it.

[justin]

You are like me. I have a niece who is about 16 month old and sometime is annoying. But, you know how humans grow. Luckily, The baby might even like to be around you and be sort of your friend, just like my neice. my advice is to at least have be attatched to that baby so it could be your best friend and not annoy you.

[Sharpay]

Thanks everyone for your advices.