<sigh> girls again

[smashbro]

So, I'm not sure if i need help so much as i need a place to write things down and sort them out, but i have a feeling i'll have a question by the end of this, so please read.

so yesterday, i go over Sarah's (former love interest) house for her birthday, hoping by some off chance that when there is a chance, we go out onto her back porch, she confesses her love to me, and we kiss...back to reality. I get there, Camarie (her best friend) decides to straighten my bangs. A little while after that, she decides she wants to sleep, asks me to be her pillow kinda, meaning she puts a pillow against my leg and rests. I move away, she goes to the other boy there (obviously not a choice for someone she has a crush on). I think, oh, ok. they're friends and she layed next to him so whatever... So later, when she asks me to again, I let her put the pillow against my leg. for some reason i forget (legit reason) i have to get up and move, sit somewhere else. As time goes on, she gets up a few times, each time moving a little closer to me. By the end of the night, i'm confused, not sure wether or not she likes me, and slightly wondering if i like her.

today, i go to the GUS (robotics) awards potluck, and see Tina again. I realize I don;t like her, and she doesn't like me.

but i also realized, i dont think i like her, but camarie might like me. I mean, she acts kinda like i did when i liked Tina, so i don't think its that far off.

now, the only problem is that there's no reason i shouldn't like her. i mean, she's nice, caring, but ... i just like her as a close friend, not girlfriend.

so i guess i thought up my question, What do I do? Do I go out with her, see if it works out? Do I try to make myself like her? Or do I just do nothing? Should I make it clear I just want to be friends?

[Big Boss]

I was in the same situation you were in a year ago, I was over at a freinds house with another girl I thought I would never like(personality reasons) but whenever we talked alone things were definitaly different than if we talked in a big group of freinds, girls are like that. but when i talked to her alone, it was like we were over 9000. i never thought i would like her, i kept telling myself that I wouldint, but things were different when you start thinking about what it would be like to date the girl...soon you start actually liking her and it goes on from there....

pretty much you like her but you dont know it

[smashbro]

but i dont!...you told yourself you didnt want to like her? I dont know, i just dont think i do. its not that i dont want to like her...well, maybe i dont, but i dont see myself with her or anything.

so, what was your answer? That I should (supposedly) realize that I (supposedly) like her?

[Dobs]

alright, if you DONT like Camerie (hope i didnt murder that spelling) then you can still be friend with her. Just DONT LEAD HER ON! Don't hit at liking her, and/or go out with her unless you ACTUALLY DO. People going out with people they only kinda/sorta like is how people get hurt.

If you do grow to like her though (which happens sometimes) THEN tis time to make a move.

[NonChalant]

I think you should just go with the flow for now, don't head into anything sudden, just be her pillow

[smashbro]

ok...i'll just wait on it. but does it mean anything if everytime you are around a person, you feel like you admire them, and i dont know, just wish they could be with you more?

[Naked Snake II]

what I would do in this sitation is: One realize who is it who you truly have a crush on..(this does not include looks, but rather more personality and close to). Start talking to the one you picked on whether it's the drowzy girl that think you are a comfy pillow, the one you use to have a crush on w/e. make a move on them what not..Bada-bing bada-boom.

OR

I use to do this when it is urgent.....go out with the one you like..Show everyone else how good of a person you really are to girls..I mean REALLY NICE. So her friends know it (hint hint* Girls never stop gossiping or talk about guys..if ur someone bf, you'll be a conversation for the daily girl side chat). That'll make them know who smashbro's colors truly are...From there you'll realize what your best move is

[NonChalant]

the thing is, how old are these girls? mostly girls, teenage girls, will choose looks over nice anyway

[Naked Snake II]

not necessarily.
I've seen some really ugly dudz in my school with gfs all the time..Trust me, its not all bout ze looks. If anything its all chemistry..

[smashbro]

they're teenagers, but they would probably value personality more, i mean, they wouldnt want guys to be hideous, but i dont have to look that great...add more later gtg

[strawberry]

As annoying as it is, I'd say wait. Give yourself time. Just don't get in a car crash or something while you're waiting. On a more serious note, it'd save you some embarrassment just in case she doesn't like you (she could have just been flirting). But good luck with whatever you decide to do =]

[smashbro]

thanks...i guess i have been waiting, still not clear of my feelings. right now im back into the mood that, its too confusing i should just say screw it and never worry about liking girls for the rest of my life. it'll pass soon though.

[strawberry]

Good, because now you sound like one of my friends who don't believe in love =(