Friends

[smashbro]

Is it a bad thing that most girls see me as more of a friend/buddy then, well, a guy who they would consider dating?

It was brought up at a sleepover at one of my friends houses yesterday. One of my friends brought it up that he was talking to a friend of mine (a girl) who said she was good friends with me. My friend at the sleepover then said that the person he talked to mentioned that its the same with my other close friends who are girls. THey went on to joke that I would be the one to marry a physicist/model and they'd be like wtf how did this happen? I don't know if they noticed it, but i took it as an insult.

So yeah, most of my friends at school are girls. and they're the ones i usually hang out with whenever. cause most of my guy friends wouldn't want to hang out at the mall or anything. they never go to dances. also, i dont hang out with the guys I know as much because they're never serious. With the exception of one or two, I don't feel like i could talk to them about anything important. and the person or two I could talk to, they aren't in most of my classes.

the exception is at robotics, most of the people there are cool. I'm good friends with them, and i think the team is planning on doing things together more. most of my good friends are there.

now that im typing this out, it seems more obvious to me what i should do. hang out with my friends at robotics more. so i guess all im asking is should I make a point of it to hang out with guys instead of girls? or just do whatever i want and not care about what everyone says?

[Ghost]

May 26, 2008 9:49:16 GMT -5 smashbro said:

just do whatever i want and not care about what everyone says?

If given the choice....always go with THIS

Don't change what you do just because someone's bugging you or flat being an @$$ towards you. So you hang out with girls...big whoop. Worst thing they can do is start the gay jokes. I know i've been there.

In high school i hung out with almost all girls...LOL 5 of us even had a fake family...they were all my sisters and i treated them as such....heck some of em even called my parents mom and dad LOL THe upperclassmen...and some of the underclassmen even hounded me constantly about it....attempted to make my life miserable about it, but in the end i realized....who gives a **** about them? and i just continued on with what i was doing and in the end (senior year) i was one of the most popular guys in the whole school. Not because i was the cool guy to hang out with, but because i wouldn't change i felt was right and what i wanted to do because of some idiot trying to push his way on me.

Sorry this turned out as a mini bio about me LOL but perhaps you can take some of that and apply it to your situation. sure you may be getting grief from it now, but in the long run.... it doesn't matter you'll get much further in life by always doing what makes you happy...not what some gelatin brain thinks you should do

[smashbro]

May 26, 2008 10:09:30 GMT -5 Ghost said:

May 26, 2008 9:49:16 GMT -5 smashbro said:

just do whatever i want and not care about what everyone says?

If given the choice....always go with THIS

Sorry this turned out as a mini bio about me LOL but perhaps you can take some of that and apply it to your situation. sure you may be getting grief from it now, but in the long run.... it doesn't matter you'll get much further in life by always doing what makes you happy...not what some gelatin brain thinks you should do

it makes sense, i mean, i know that i should do that. the only thing is, i keep telling myself, and other people sometimes tell me this, that things will work out in the long run. but what about now? and when will it come to that point? im just tired of waiting

[Dobs]

you should hang out with whoever makes you happy. if you don't enjoy yourself hanaging out with your guy friends, then don't hang out with them. Guys and girls have their faults. Guys are fun and stupid. Girls are more serious, but MAN can they be beyotchy. Just hang out with who you like, ignore what stupid people say, and you'll always be happy.

[peram]

I choose cake.


But more seriously, pie

But for realz, Brownies


Smashbro, just do whatever makes you happiest.
It's good to have friends with that are girls, they're usually the better friends and will make you feel better about yourself.

But it's also good to have friends that are boys too because you can talk about things with them that you can't with girls

[Ghost]

May 26, 2008 10:15:01 GMT -5 smashbro said:

it makes sense, i mean, i know that i should do that. the only thing is, i keep telling myself, and other people sometimes tell me this, that things will work out in the long run. but what about now? and when will it come to that point? im just tired of waiting

It took me 2 1/2 years to ultimately be jerk-free. It all depends on the stubbornness and level of irritation of the individuals in question. Some of it is also cause i was the fat kid at school, so i got ridiculed for that as well.

In the end though....i wouldn't trade their jokes and attacks for anything. It's part of what's made me who i am today. I listened to all their joking and learned to recognize it for what it is...analyzed it to see if they are making fun of me because there is something wrong with THEM that they don't want others to find out, or if it's just because they're an @$$. It's made me not be offended as easily, and be able to take criticism when handed it.

I'll be honest...in 9th grade when the majority of it started....someone would made a joke like that and i'd basically be in tears.........slowly i got more used to it...and my nickname senior year was Cookie...cause i turned a big recurring joke on me back in their faces LOL Today if someone made a gay or fat joke at my expense...i'd probably laugh right with them and make another one about myself to confuse them.

Learn from it....and it will make you better and stronger.

[Dobs]

making fun of yourself is always fun. I do it all the time. I figure if people are gunna insult me, i might as well teach them how to do it right

[Marluxia]

smashbro hang around people who who like to hang around for me with 25 % of my guy friends are pot heads which make the 2 of them very annoying the hang with the others talk about stuff I'm not very interested in and if i just hang around them i bet you by the end of the week i would take a shovel and beat my self silly that why i like hanging around my friends who are girls more then the guys what I'm trying to say is what makes you happy is good do care about what the other people say there just worried about there masculinity

[NonChalant]

The real deal is this, If you happen to like any of the girls you are friends with, it might be a problem... ask yourself, how long has she been your friend? Has she had boyfriends, while you two were friends? are the guys she date, like you, or opposite?

If she's been your friend for a while, meaning like a year or more, chances are she might only like you as a friend, or else she would've gone after you. If she's had boyfriends and you knew about them, that may also tell you that she only thinks of you as just a friend. And if the guys she date are opposite of you, again you're just a friend to her. My advice is, if you like a girl, always let her know, before you become just a friend, I used to be "friends" with a girl i really liked, and it killed me that she never liked me as more...