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Post by Divine Intervention on May 24, 2008 13:43:33 GMT -5
One of my friends had an ex-boyfriend.
Emphasis on had.
He killed himself last week, shot himself and left his family to find him. My friend only told me yesterday, since that was the first time we'd seen each other since it happened. I'm going to make her a sympathy card, but what else can I do for her?
Also, what do I do about my dad?
Last night I was crying my eyes out, and my dad said, "You didn't even know him!"
WTF, dad? What does that have to do with anything? People died in Hurricane Katrina. Does that mean I can't cry for them, too? Does that mean I can't cry for murder victims?
God. What do I do now?
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Post by MortalSuperNinja on May 24, 2008 17:24:31 GMT -5
As for the first question,I don't know.the second one,ask your
dad if he would want people who didn't know him to cry for HIM
when he dies.
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Post by Divine Intervention on May 24, 2008 17:43:33 GMT -5
I could, but then that would make me start thinking about HIS death, and I honestly don't need that right now.
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Post by MortalSuperNinja on May 24, 2008 17:52:18 GMT -5
ah.I understand.sorry I wasn't of help
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Post by Divine Intervention on May 24, 2008 17:54:55 GMT -5
Ah, no, you're fine. -Hug- At least SOMEONE understands my pain. -Glares at her dad-
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Post by Cell on May 24, 2008 17:59:19 GMT -5
That sucks! I understand your pain. Even when someone I don't know dies, I still care and feel horrible! Hope everything gets better for you!  |
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Post by Divine Intervention on May 24, 2008 18:02:00 GMT -5
Thanks, Cell. At least you can't go any farther than the bottom, which is where I feel I am now... T_T
But anyway. I must get my mind off this. BRAWL TIEMZ.
Bah, if only I had a good WiFi connection.
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Post by Cell on May 24, 2008 18:03:15 GMT -5
Another way to get your mind off it. Try Role Playing, it's so much fun and it's addicting! ^_^
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Post by Ghost on May 24, 2008 18:10:22 GMT -5
As far as your friend goes.....go with the card but make sure you call her often...hang out and try to do stuff as often as you can to keep her mind occupied and stuff.
As far as your dad is concerned.....well.....i can sometimes be a heartless SOB myself. He probably thinks that if you didn't know him, then his death wouldn't change your life drastically or affect your daily activities. It's a horrible and BLUNT way of thinking....it's logical thinking, but heartlessly logical (which i can sometimes be)
I do however understand feeling upset over something like that when a friend/family member is going through that.......if that be the case, which it IS, then i perfectly sympathize. A friend of mine's little bro died today....got hit by a truck and his brain swelled up. He was only 12. I'm upset about it because it was my friends bro.
The thing i've grown to understand, and it sounds like your dad needs to figure this out...is that you're upset because it was your friends exBF.....you're not just randomly opening up the local newspaper and weeping openly at the Death column even though you had NO IDEA who these people are
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Post by Cell on May 24, 2008 20:22:28 GMT -5
I've had a similar experiance, but it was alot worse. My mom's friends entire family was killed on Christmas Eve or Chrismas Day, can't remember. It was my mom's friend's mom, dad, brother, sister-in-law, and the brother's kids all got shot. My mom's friend's sister and the sister's boyfriend shot them all. This took place in Carnation, Washington, a small town that you never thought a thing like that would happen. I felt horrible when I heard, and my mom was in tears. It was a really bad thing and I feel for the family. You can actualy search it up and find it.
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Post by Dobs on May 24, 2008 22:33:49 GMT -5
wow, that really suck. Im really sorr to hear that.
to make your friend feel better, just keep hanging out with her, having fun with her...try to keep her mind off of the situation at all costs.
as far as your dad goes. Dads, much like people, are sometimes stupid. Just don't let whatever hes saying bother you too much cus hes just a stupid man who is having trouble understanding your feelings right now. But he'll come around eventually, i promise.
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Post by Divine Intervention on May 25, 2008 15:13:00 GMT -5
@ghost - Yes. That's true. @cell - My god. That's horrible. Dobs - Thank you. Bah, now I'm crying happy-tears because I have such great friends here. Thanks, guys. |
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Post by smashbro on May 26, 2008 9:26:07 GMT -5
first off, im sorry to hear that. just try to be there for your friend if she needs to talk to anyone. other then that, there isnt much you can
About your dad, i dont know what you should tell him. you brought up a lot of good points, you could tell him what you posted in your first post, about Katrina and everything.
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