Patience

[Sharpay]

This continues from when my ex cheated on me for a "gf" who is in another country, online. I sort of have a new bf already. With my ex though, his plan is going to fail, he wants to get his "gf" out of her country and live with him in the United States. The thing is, do you think mommy and daddy would let their daughter leave the country for a man whom they can't understand? (her parents does not speak in English)

He is planning to meet her when she is 18, right now she is 15 and he is 18 (which is illegal). So the patience for me will be between 3-5 years, because all of us (me and his "friends") know his plan won't work. I will see how it goes with me and my new bf, but if it somehow does not work, then I will just have to wait until my ex realizes that his "gf" can't leave her country.

[The King Of Darkness]

First of all if he cheated on you and you now have someone else what do you care? I wouldnt give him another thought. He needs to date someone his own age and someone whos NOT in another country, cause we ALL know long distance relationships fail.

[Nad... Is the Joker?]

I just want to say... Why would he cheat on you for someone over the internet? That's never gonna work in a million years... The age difference also makes it pretty creepy and he must be that great to go dating over the internet!

[Bayonetta]

Sharpay, don't give a damn about him now. And it's not illegal for him to date her BUT it's kinda pedophilic. So dun give a damn, you got a new boyfriend, he loves you, he's loyal to you. You love him, he's loyal to you. Hop off your ex-boyfriend, get over him, don't have no feelings for him because obviously, he didn't give a damn about your feelings when he left chu for an online girlfriend. And really, those relationships dun work HALF the time. I dun wanna sound harsh or anything but everything I'm saying ish for real. If you care, you never know. If he knows you have a new bf, then he might wanna make you jealous. Other then that, let him go. I mean you can care but if he goes to jail, then that's his fault. And tell his lazy ass to get up and pick his "girlfriend" up if she's so important. If you heard the song "Like a Boy" by Ciara, that's all yew need. He's playing yew, dun fall for it, I've been played all my "dating" life and I know how it feels. Some boys do that and eventually, he's gonna hurt that girl for another girl and on and on. It's a habit. So leave it, he dug his own grave, dun give a two cents about him. You need to show that you're independent because some boys think girls are the easiest to play. If you care for him or worry about him:

You might lose your boyfriend
2. He might do something unforgetable to yew.

Drop it and move on with chur life. He dating someone over the internet, especially a girl. Long distance relationships are an EPIC FAIL, honey. And I'm 13 by the way. So you need to be audacious, valiant, independent as well as can be, Sharpay. And remember, your name ish Sharpay, the stuck-up strong willed independent young blonde. Be that girl, you have a man., that yew can hold, snuggle on, kiss upon, and toy around with. He doesn't have a girl for that unless he CHEATS on his "girlfriend" for another girl that he can snuggle and cuddle on. Live life, be happy, enjoy it while it lasts, and sometimes, you do HAVE to let go of obnoxious boys like that. You do because it'll hit chu. Do what's BEST for YOUR life. Have fun, you may not be young like me but chu still young so have fun while you're at it. Yesh, I posted this in school and now my class ish over so I have to go. Sharpay, I hope I didn't hurt you but helped yew.

[Sharpay]

KoD: I still have feelings for him, but if he comes to his senses, I won't go right back to him, I will see how this new relationship will go and I want to build up my ex's trust, since he put down 2 years worth of trust down the drain for someone on the internet.
Nad: With my ex, he used to live here, but he had to move, so it went with long distance, it was working really great and we had plans to attend college together in less than 2 years from now. It was going great until his "gf" showed up and started on him. As of now, I have them blocked, but the "gf" was so mean to me and his friends and we gave my ex proof and he does nothing about it.
Maia: You did not hurt my feelings at all. Actually my new bf is also online, he has been my friend for over a year. Him and I are the same age. There is no one here in person that I like because I live in a village in Alaska and everyone does drugs and alcohol, so my life is at this computer and this forum so I don't get caught up in that mess. It is illegal in ways of what they are doing, if he goes to see her it is "child sex tourism" it will only happen if he does not wait until she is 18. Right now, they are actually doing really creepy stuff that counts for sexual predator. I have proof from his "friends" and he does not deny it, so it is the truth. I am not depressed anymore, but in a way I found this a light from this situation, because his plan won't work. Last night I wrote an e-mail to his oldest sister, not sure whose side she is on, but if she is on mine, she might get some sense into him.

Thanks for all of your guy's help!

[The King Of Darkness]

Mar 19, 2009 11:45:22 GMT -5 Sharpay said:

KoD: I still have feelings for him, but if he comes to his senses, I won't go right back to him, I will see how this new relationship will go and I want to build up my ex's trust, since he put down 2 years worth of trust down the drain for someone on the internet.
Nad: With my ex, he used to live here, but he had to move, so it went with long distance, it was working really great and we had plans to attend college together in less than 2 years from now. It was going great until his "gf" showed up and started on him. As of now, I have them blocked, but the "gf" was so mean to me and his friends and we gave my ex proof and he does nothing about it.
Maia: You did not hurt my feelings at all. Actually my new bf is also online, he has been my friend for over a year. Him and I are the same age. There is no one here in person that I like because I live in a village in Alaska and everyone does drugs and alcohol, so my life is at this computer and this forum so I don't get caught up in that mess. It is illegal in ways of what they are doing, if he goes to see her it is "child sex tourism" it will only happen if he does not wait until she is 18. Right now, they are actually doing really creepy stuff that counts for sexual predator. I have proof from his "friends" and he does not deny it, so it is the truth. I am not depressed anymore, but in a way I found this a light from this situation, because his plan won't work. Last night I wrote an e-mail to his oldest sister, not sure whose side she is on, but if she is on mine, she might get some sense into him.

Thanks for all of your guy's help!

I STILL say if hes stupid enough to cheat on you for some girl he doesn't even know then why bother with him. Whats to say he gets back with and cheat on you again? I've seen cheating happen in my own family. And trust me when i say if he did it once hes bound to do it again. Your too good for that Sharpay. You a nice polite girl and deserve to be treated like a lady, not a piece of trash thrown in the garbage can. I know its hard for you but trust me when i say its best if you move on with your life and try to forget about him.

My older sister went through what your going through now. She was in love with a man. He seemed like a good trustworthy person but in the end he cheated on my sister. She was devastated and didn't want to see him ever again. However she still had feelings for him and tried to give him a second chance. In the end just by the way he acted he was again being dishonest. Despite my sister having feelings still for this guy she did the right thing. She put him behind her and moved on. Thankfully shes in a much better situation then she was. So believe me when i say i know what your going through. I know it hurts but you have to try to move on with your life. There are better more trusting people out there you could end up in a relationship with. You just have to find that right person. And youll KNOW when its the right one.

[Sharpay]

Thanks KoD. I am moving on, just that since my logic is finally coming back, I noticed that his plan won't work, so in a way I find it as a light to this whole situation. How I actually found out he was cheating on me is that he broke up with me and how he talked was so strange. I asked him if he is going after another girl, he told me he will wait at least a month.
Thanks for helping me, I will forget about him, but when the time comes, he will come back to me, this all depends on how my new relationship is doing.

[starfox]

your ex isnt very smart at all. He isnt smart for the fact that he dumped you for a woman on the internet and he isnt smart for the fact that she is 18 while he is I think you said 15.

No offense though but I dont think its very smart htat you still have feelings for him...or had yet he didnt even live near you and it was a long distance relationship but whats done is done I guess.

[Sharpay]

It is the opposite, he is 18, she is 15. He did live in the same place as I am and he had to move. I am finally just thinking of forgetting about him. Just got an e-mail from his oldest sister, I guess he modified the story to where I was doing all the bad things and that she approves of his relationship of this new girl who is in another country. So right now, I am realizing that I need to forget about him.

[Rorschach]

if you have a boyfriend right now, you should be embracing him not e-mail your ex about his girlfrined.....forget about him and go have fun with your boyfriend.

[Sharpay]

Thanks Sour, I already have realized now about this. I am moving on.