Let's clear the air

[starprincess]

Ok guys there has been a lot of drama here lately and it's been having a negative effect on the site. Members are taking breaks and/or even thinking about leaving. These useless arguments are driving us apart when we should be bonding together like a family. So I made this thread for one reason and one reason only. TO CLEAR THE AIR!!!! Here are the rules........

1: Think about all of the people you know on the site and speak your mind about them. Hold nothing back!!!! Get your feelings out there.

2: For every good comment, you have to give a bad comment. Just like the moon there is light and dark side. We all have mixed feelings about people or something we don't like about them. Don't keep anything hidden. Speak from your mind and heart.

3: comments come in pairs. If you can't think of one good and bad thing to say about a person don't post his name here. I'm sorry to say that but noone likes or dislikes someone 100%. There is always a flaw that you don't like or bugs you. Be truthful about everything.

4: Tolerance. What builds relationships is tolerance and understanding. Yes this person may have some traits you don't like about them but that doesn't mean you have to argue with them or bash them down. Respect peoples opinions and there way of doing things. Only then can we truly come together as a family and end this useless drama.

I'll start first so I can give you an example........

KOD: You are a great guy and you've helped me clear up a deep wound in my heart that i thought would never heal. I am really happy to have you as a friend. However sometimes you leave me hanging when it comes to conversations. I know you have other friends to talk to on msn but I wish you would tell me when you are talking to them. So when I start one of my serious talks I won't have to hang on for like 30 minutes waiting for you to reply. Please tell me this so I won't feel ignored or sad.

Cell: Your funny and you have a great sense of humor. You try to keep things going and organized. You smash out problems before they get too big and you make sure the c-box has a positive atmosphere. However you can be rather mean and blunt sometimes. I know the truth hurts and people should deal with it but sometimes people aren't ready for the hard truth yet. If you have a problem with someone or you need them to stop something try to talk with them in kind understanding manner instead of giving the hard blunt flat out truths.

BB: You a magnificent pervy bastard and I love it . You always make me laugh no matter how sad I am. You always have a joke up your sleeve and you entertain us all. Now BB you are just like Cell. You can be mean and blunt which I think is the reason why you 2 are always bumping heads. You guys are like brothers. You guys argue with each other like siblings in a household but you know its alright. Everyone needs to argue with someone sometimes but I want you 2 to understand that you can't let your differences come between you. you may not like some of the opinions or actions that a person does but you must accept them to truly keep a friendship going. So BB and Cell? Please accept the bad and the good of each other and return to the relationship you once had. As friends and as brothers.

Angel: She is my wife and I love her to death . She is the peacekeeper of the forums and she always tries to calm everyone down when they're upset. However what you do for others you can also do for yourself. There are many times when you let little comments or opinions throw off your mood and it causes you to become unhappy. Angel you must understand that your a good person. you may have some things you don't like about yourself but everyone has that something. We love you Angel and nothing is going to change that.

Ghost: My man in the shadows. I helpful and a kindhearted person. You may not be able to hold a conversation but you still manage to keep us entertained and raise you epic meter. I also find that you can be mean to people that constantly annoy you. Yes I know that difficult people can be really annoying and that it gives people a lot of stress but i would advise you not to let them go, especially if you like the individual. Remember if you have a problem with that person talk it out and reason with him. Please don't shoo him away. Sit with him and try to have a reasonable conversation.

Maia: A real sweetheart and I love her so much. She is fun, kind and she loves to dance and entertain us. She talks to you when your upset and she does everything she can to make you feel better. However Maia you have the same problem I do. You let your emotions bottle up to the point where you scream them out. You can't do that my dear. you can't let your feeling get to that point. Please talk with someone and tell them your feelings, not only that tell them why you are feeling that way. If you release those feelings through a good conversation it will feel like a huge burden has been lifted. You will be happier than you ever was once you get those feelings out.

Thats about it for me. As I said before I'm not going to talk about someone unless I have a positive and negative comment about them. I'll try to update this post when I think of some more comments but I hope this can clear the air and get us to bond together again. We need to have a better understanding for each other and accept each other for who we are. Only then will the drama officially stop.

[¡Yiff Police!]

I agree we need some family bonding time XD

[Big Boss]

all of this is win

[Cell]

Such a wise girl.... you speak the truth.

Well ladies, gentlemen..... it's time to say what you truly feel about everyone else. No more negative vendettas, or blaming other people. Just come out with everything and say what you feel. Don't make your post a put-down, bashing kind of way. Post something highlighting someone's characteristics, and then say what bugs you the most about them.

Go.

EDIT: I'll speak after I've heard a few people's first.

[Big Boss]

ok

here I go.

KOD: you are learning the ways of the force, and you are a good member, but sometimes, you dont use your head enough, you have a temper that can be crazy. All of us are trying to make you a better person.

Cell: what can I say, we are like bros, but the thing was, i feel as everytime i see you as a CH i get pissed, but im learning to get over it, its gonna take a while.

angel: you are very nice and everything, but i feel as you are trying to take control of the forum a bit too much, and sometimes your comments arent needed, you still have to get to know the people better.

Ghost: you are a great mod, but i think you give up on things a bit to easy, you jus try to avoid your problems. you can learn to not do that, it isnt hard

[Dobs]

looks like dobbehz gunna halp break the ice. I'm pretty blunt and straightforward, so i'm trying my hardest to say everything nicely... bare with me.

Star: You're a great member with great ideas (like this thread, suggestions stuff) and i really appreciate it. Although the Dark side was a problem, its getting better, which is great.

Twilightlink: You are extremely active and everyone friggin loves you. You always have something nice to say and always look on the bright side of things. You also handled being de-modded EXTREMELY well, and you have no idea how much i appreciate that. That being said, sometimes you come up with ideas just for the sake of coming up with ideas. You feel liek you need to do SOMETHING, so you blurt out random ideas that aren't very plausible.


BB: You iz mah bestest rival, Majora'z Mask Guru, 1337 buddeh, random, perverted, fun to brawl, NOOooOooOooo-ing, awesome friend. But...Screw it, i'm being mah blunt self. You can be a complete ASS. A lot of the time people won't be able to tell if you're being serious or not (like cell) and they'll get upset when you mess with them just for the lolz.

Cell: You're an awesome forum member and contribute a lot to the rp and staff, you're fun to be around, and all that good stuff. You have the opposite problem as BB. You tend to take almost EVERYTHING too seriously. People (llike bb) will be joking around and you may get upset for what is actually nothing.

thats just everyone in the thread. As more people post, i'll do them.

[Angel]

Love you all. Like Dobbeh, I'll post as other people post their lists. For now, only people with lists are getting responses.




Star: Flirty, Cute, Sensitive, Sweet, Open. Your a good friend, and someone I care about. That being said, you can be a bit controlling and have trouble trusting others. I know there is a reason for it, but you tend to cross-examine and put yourself into everything.

Big Boss: Wise, Loyal, Awesome, Smart, Refreshing.. all amazing traits from you. You want everyone to grow emotionally so they can be ready for a harsh life. But you can be very mean at times and not understanding of other people's feelings at all.. sometimes people need to grow, and sometimes you need to respect their weakness.

Dobs: Smart, Funny, Goofy, Trusting, Awesome. You also tend to be a bit afraid and back down due to conflict at times, but we all are and do. Don't be afraid to totally stand up to your decisions when you feel they are right.

Steele: Angel not know you enough! But what I have seen, your hardworking, super and all around awesome. One negative thing I can say is that I can't be KOS-MOS on the c-box thanks to your MOS coding. *giggle* Sorry, I hope we get to know each other more in the future.

KoD: Your a wonderful person, a caring guy, passionate, loving and loyal. But you also can be immature and self-absorbed at times.. but you ARE working at it. You still needs some work though. Keep at it. Love ya berry much.

Ghost: A true friend, loyal, funny, smart, open. You got a wonderful head on your shoulders and some true wisdom that alot of people need to hear. But you could stand to not get so angry so fast, and to explain yourself when you are angry more.

Twlight: Your a good friend, smart, hardworking, trusting and all around awesome. Your feminine, in that in guys I totally love.. but I do think you could stand to sometimes be a little less opinionated. You stick to your guns and sometimes irritate me because you come across and not really listening to what I have to say.

You come across does not mean your not open. Just saying that you give the impression

Cell: Caring, Sweet, Hardworking, Open, Hearfelt, Smart, all around awesome guy. One of the people that seriously makes me love this place. I see myself like you in some ways, which is why I'm going to say this. I'm going to give you the advice others gave me. Try not to let people's judgements and feelings get to you so much. Your a wonderful person, no matter what.

Jukan: What can I say? My otaku friend o' mine. I know what you mean, it's hard to say bad things. You always have fun in mind, your patient, your smart. Your pretty cool. Your definitely one of my best friends now too. If I can say one iffy thing, it's that you tend to get emotional easily and your motives at times aren't very clear.

[Dobs]

Ah keep mah promises:

Angel: You are sweet and caring, and pretty much took the forum by storm since you got here. You always listen to evreyone's opinions and are nice about everything. That being said, you have to toughen up. Don't let everyone's opinion's of you or ANYTHING ever effect how you're feeling. Little things tend to get to you when they really shouldn't.

oh, and

Feb 3, 2009 21:40:03 GMT -5 Angel said:

You also tend to be a bit afraid and back down due to conflict at times, but we all are and do. Don't be afraid to totally stand up to your decisions when you feel they are right.

i respectfully disagree

[The King Of Darkness]

Star: Kind, energetic, friendly and just at times random but at times you seem to be a downer and let things get to you too easily. Your a good friend.

Ghost: Supportive and helpful but at times you tend to keep you self out of harms way of the bigger situations. Your still an awesome guy.

Angel: Loving, caring , supportive, cheery, and just a down right awesome member to this site. Your always there when i need you and i feel i can talk to you about anything. You do however let things get to you way to easily but this doesnt take away from how great of a friend you are.

I love all you guys. (not to sound weird)

[Angel]

KoD: Your a wonderful person, a caring guy, passionate, loving and loyal. But you also can be immature and self-absorbed at times.. but you ARE working at it. You still needs some work though. Keep at it. Love ya berry much.

Feb 3, 2009 21:40:03 GMT -5 Angel said:

You also tend to be a bit afraid and back down due to conflict at times, but we all are and do. Don't be afraid to totally stand up to your decisions when you feel they are right.

i respectfully disagree

*coughcoughstaffcutscoughcough* LOVE YOU SO MUCH! You iz amazin!

[Dobs]

KOD: You are maturing exponentially. No more barking for attention in the cbox, no more extremely short temper (now its just regular short ). You've really gotten a lot better since coming here. Something that bothers me about you NOW, you kind of tend to exclude other people (always mentioning PMs, MSN, etc.). You stay in your little circle of people (ghost, angel, star, blah blah blahhh) and you make it abnoxiously obvious at times. It doesn't bother me personally, but i could see it getting on other's nerves.

[The King Of Darkness]

Cell: Hardworking dedicated and talented CH of our boards Cell is. Downside is he seems to always be the first to lose his temper. But all the same your a great mod cell.

[ManOfSteele]

Ok, ok. Here I goes. First let me start off by saying that I love you all here on the forums. And since I'm a dude, that love is the way that two brothers love each other, or even the way that a gorilla who knows sign language loves a kitten. I love you all.

But, it's time to be blunt

Cell: You are a funny, smart and helpful guy. I appreciate that you are truly dedicated to being part of the forums. You do tend to cause a lot of drama, but most of it is self inflicted. You hurt yourself over nothing, and then your emotions go out of wack, and then.... well not good. You have matured since you have gotten here, but your old self sometimes rears it's head.

Ghost: Ghost, you are hilarious, always know what to say, and an all around amazing guy. However, I've noticed that you seem to be avoiding the site sometimes, and frankly it has me worried. If something is going down, I'm here to help and or talk to.

Peram: I freaking love you. Nuff said. THe only thing that I can say, is that you seem to beat yourself up whenever drama happens. On the forum or not. While I haven't seen "Depressed Peram" for a while, which is good, I always get the feeling that after you handle a situation you never truly walk away from it 100% happy with what happened. Please, feel free to prove me wrong.

LGN: As one of my best friends on the site, I feel that it is my obligation to throw the following "tough love" statments at you. 1. POSTYS!!!!!!!!!!!! ARUUUURGH! 2. You do tend to seem to drop bombs and break balls a lot. 3. Without you, I might not still be here on the forums

Jukan: Ok, forst off you are an amazing guy with many skills that will take you far. However, your very nature makes me angry sometimes. Honostly, I have never seen a complete sentence from you. There I said it. It's never ended, just one big thought spaced out......it's kinda annoying...I know it's for effect but....it gets annoying....you know?

BB: As my mentor, you never failed me. You were funny, always there and an awesome friend. However, latley you have been..... well an ass. Not to me, but it hurts me inside when I see you being mean to other people. It makes me think "Wow, this is the guy that I respected so much in the past?" Sometimes when I see you acting that way, I feel like I hae lost my sense of trust and direction in people.

[Ghost]

I'm breaking the 1 and 1 system but i dun care lol

Cell You rock buddy. You have had to deal with ALOT of crap both on here and in the internet. You are an excellent RPer, you write great fanfics, you have excellent ideas. You're caring and tend to accept strange news very easily. Once you get to know you.......you can be trusted with anything. Main criticisms for you is that you tend to get annoyed very easily and are stupid enough to show up here when you have a splitting migraine. If you show up with a migraine you're just gonna get annoyed even more easily than you normally do. Also you can come across as a hard@$$ to new people...again usually stemming from earlier said migraine or irritation.

DobsWhat more can i say other than amazing. You've been one of my best friends here since i've started and i don't see that ending anytime soon. You're wicked fun, and always have a great way of saying things. Noone can pull of the macho fro like you. Main criticism for you is that SO often i hear "you took the words out of my mouth" or "THAT" You tend to wait for others to speak and then back them up...try being the first to speak his mind a little more often.....that and you like Metroid Prime XD

KoDOh man....so much i could say LOL. Despite what anyone else may say...you really are freaking awesome. You're always there to talk to, and as of late your epic meter has risen due to your maturity level. A few months ago i couldn't have had that conversation with you.....but you actually listened and are trying. Main criticism is to REALLY work on that patience...i know i already gave you a list of things to work on and keep in mind, but patience is a big one and it's a hard one...i too have struggles with it. Keep working on the items identified too but i want you to MAINLY focus on patience right now

AngelMy 2nd "child of the forum" lol Words cannot describe how great you are....i can't put them into words. You're caring, fun, hilarious, trustworthy. You try to help everyone in every situation even if it requires taking the problem and shoving it RIGHT UP someone's @$$. One thing you DO need to work on is confidence. you're doing better with it, but just remember.....if someone doesn't give you time to actually know you before making a judgment call....they aren't worth your time to begin with.

Peram a great guy all around...i'm glad to not be seeing the "Depressed Peram" profile anymore. I'm learning more about you and the more i learn, the more i like. I'll be honest at one point i didn't much care for you (i'm sure you can probably figure when) but that's not the story anymore. Main concern about you is to let people know you a little bit more.... MOST of the time you make random one liners in the c-box and stop.... unless there's only LGN and one other online at the time. Your posts in staff and other areas tend to just be matter of fact as if a robot had written it.... give us more personality.

LGNYou already know my viewpoints about anything you need to work on blah blah biased blah blah stubborn @$$ mule blah blah. but i don't think i've ever really said what all i DO like about you. Despite how often we quarrel over topics...you're passionate about your opinion and back them up 100% even if they are dead wrong....you don't change your opinion. that's both a gift and a curse, but to some degree i admire it. It means you aren't wishy washy. I enjoy the funny remarks on the c-box and the ever-changing profile that always keeps us guessing "what next" just like Peram....at one point i didn't care for you at all.....here lately my mind has been changed and is changing about you.

BBYou're the hardest one to truly review because I'm not sure if i should give you a review of the cool guy I've known for over a year, or the jerk I've known for a couple months. The first has majority of good things and like one bad....the other has the exact opposite. So....(now that i've sat here for over 10 minutes thinking) i'm gonna give you BOTH.
Mew2mast3r - EPIC is all i can say. You're always around to help people out and be a friend. You're always ready for any type of challenge with open arms and smile to greet you as an equal and provide advice, training, and an ear to listen to. You were the first (maybe 2nd) that i considered a TRUE friend. The guy who suggested me be promoted....TWICE. Only criticism i really have is the uncomfortable discussions on the c-box. You need to watch them cause...as i said..they can be uncomfortable to the general public....that and watch out for leopards XD
Big Boss - Your very knowledgeable about MGS and LOZ and willing to help out anyone in need for those areas. You can be friendly when you want to be....but other times you can just be a completely unpleasant @$$. Although i understand that people do need to learn life lessons...treating them like **** in the c-box is NOT the way to go about it. Also when you make a promise or oath...plan to follow through with it or don't make it at all. There truly is no excuse for a majority of the things you say/do and a lot of it borders on flaming if not even flat IS flaming. Watch the drama causing as well.
Now.....with those two being said....i ask you to look back.... is Big Boss the true you and Mew2mast3r just a false front you put on for us to accept you.....or is Mew2mast3r the real you and Big Boss just be the unfortunate clusterf*** of happenings that you have fallen into and need to escape from?




Everyone else including Star, Maia, Steele, Bert, Geo, SLE...... I either do not know you enough yet, or can't come up with enough good and bad points to make you a proper paragraph...that could be because you aren't making yourself known as much and hiding more in the shadows, or it could just be MY problem with not extending a hand of friendship more often to you or being an ignorant SOB about you. (i might could come up with one for SLE but it would be half @$$ and if i'm gonna do this i wanna do it proper)

[Dobs]

i really can't think of anything constructive for steele, so i'll leave him out for now... but really, i nothing negative comes to mind right now.

Ghost One of my favorite people here, and the only sane one in the bunch. I can talk to you about anything, randomly stupid games and blackmale, or really serious stuff. You will 80% of the time say EXACTLY what I was trying to communicate in a thread and didn't feel like writing out. You think everything through thoroughly before you type it out, which more of us should do. That being said, there are times when you get pretty worked up (which i'm sure you're aware of) and type a MASSIVE rant (which is also well thought out) which ends up hurting some feelings. Not saying not to say what you're feeling, but just to give yourself some time to vent and think it over before you dive into a huge discussion.

Peram Didn't post here, but i love peram. Anywho, also one of my best friends here. I'm literally in contact with you all the time and you f*cking win. Thing is, no one else (other than me and LGN) really get to see that. You don't tend to say much, and when you do, half of the time its just epic randomness. (which is awesome) You should open up more to everyone so they can share in the epicness of the peram.

EDIT: Also, Ghost talks funny