Post by Cell on Dec 7, 2008 21:25:04 GMT -5
OK, I've never made one of these before, but here I go.
As some of you already may know, my elderly grandmother lives with my parents, brothers, and I. She is 83 years old, and has mild to moderate dementia. Now she had left 8 or 9 months ago to go live with my cousin, Bridgette, and her husband. She had left due to being overwhelmed by stress and what not, but all going over there did no good. My cousin and her husband did have to pay $35,000 in bills, but there was about $30,000 other that disappeared, along with them shutting off utilities and other things immediatly which screwed us, along with the return of our truck, and taking my grandma's car. My grandma was then taken care of by them, but about 2 months ago, she was placed in a retirement home. She then stayed there bored out of her mind, and also found out about her disappearing money and the possibility of them selling the house. So she hopped on a plane and flew back here, and is now living with us once more; my mother being her primary caretaker.
Now the troubling part is this: the dementia has really been taking a toll upon all of us, along with her usual dreadful personality. She is repeatative about everything, but that's due to dementia. She is also very controlling and always seems to have something wrong, and that's always been that way. Like she thinks people shouldn't be up past like 6pm even though she stays up later herself. Also one minute she likes the dog we have, and the next he's not allowed in the house... and now the patio. Where is he suppose to go? So since she's been constantly having problems with the dog, we're probably going to take him back to the humane society; and that's rather hard for me since I JUST lost my cat due to a being hit by a car.
My grandma also detests any of my friends, my brother's friends, or my parents' friends over at all. She is rude, cold, and distant to all that do come over. She also complains WAY too much about everything. And it seems there is always something upsetting, angering, or bothering her. She's NEVER EVER EVER happy.
I know her habits and what not have worsened due to the dementia, but I can't bring myself to accept it or even deal with it. Lately all I've been doing has been hide up in my room, and my mood has been suckish. My parents are constantly getting angry at me for this and that, and that only adds to my horrid mood.
I need help on how I should deal with this, or what I should do. This is one more thing in my life that I REALLY didn't need at the moment. So please, help if you can, people.
As some of you already may know, my elderly grandmother lives with my parents, brothers, and I. She is 83 years old, and has mild to moderate dementia. Now she had left 8 or 9 months ago to go live with my cousin, Bridgette, and her husband. She had left due to being overwhelmed by stress and what not, but all going over there did no good. My cousin and her husband did have to pay $35,000 in bills, but there was about $30,000 other that disappeared, along with them shutting off utilities and other things immediatly which screwed us, along with the return of our truck, and taking my grandma's car. My grandma was then taken care of by them, but about 2 months ago, she was placed in a retirement home. She then stayed there bored out of her mind, and also found out about her disappearing money and the possibility of them selling the house. So she hopped on a plane and flew back here, and is now living with us once more; my mother being her primary caretaker.
Now the troubling part is this: the dementia has really been taking a toll upon all of us, along with her usual dreadful personality. She is repeatative about everything, but that's due to dementia. She is also very controlling and always seems to have something wrong, and that's always been that way. Like she thinks people shouldn't be up past like 6pm even though she stays up later herself. Also one minute she likes the dog we have, and the next he's not allowed in the house... and now the patio. Where is he suppose to go? So since she's been constantly having problems with the dog, we're probably going to take him back to the humane society; and that's rather hard for me since I JUST lost my cat due to a being hit by a car.
My grandma also detests any of my friends, my brother's friends, or my parents' friends over at all. She is rude, cold, and distant to all that do come over. She also complains WAY too much about everything. And it seems there is always something upsetting, angering, or bothering her. She's NEVER EVER EVER happy.
I know her habits and what not have worsened due to the dementia, but I can't bring myself to accept it or even deal with it. Lately all I've been doing has been hide up in my room, and my mood has been suckish. My parents are constantly getting angry at me for this and that, and that only adds to my horrid mood.
I need help on how I should deal with this, or what I should do. This is one more thing in my life that I REALLY didn't need at the moment. So please, help if you can, people.
smashbro ~~~ Authority: 20 ~~~ Combat: 10
